The Difficult Ones

Who is that person in your life who always seems to know exactly what to say or do to get you from zero to rage in 60 seconds? They push and they push and as usual you walk right into the trap and explode in anger. Perhaps you have more than one person in your life who is skilled at causing you to tie your chest in a knot, scream, yell or try desperately to restrain yourself from doing something that would bring highly undesirable consequences.

How many times have you been driven to this state by these people or group of people? Why is it that no matter how many times we go there, we somehow believe that it won’t happen again? Why do we expect people to do something or be anything other than what they are?

The key to dealing with the difficult ones is to simply accept them! They are who they are. If you expect them to be anyone else, you will be upset and disappointed every time. In fact, we would all be happier if we simply started accepting people for who they are, even if we think they should be something else. If you do not accept them, you judge them, and that is not a seat you want to sit in.

Don’t forget that you are most likely someone else’s “difficult one.” If there isn’t a person on the earth who can say you have been difficult, God can say it. He sees and knows all.

Pray for people in your life that you find it hard to get along with and maintain your position of peace. Follow the example of Jesus. He did not seek trouble or react defensively. He maintained His position, accepting people as they were and remaining who He was at all times.

Try love, understanding and forgiveness when dealing with the difficult people in your life. Give people the same grace and mercy that you need for yourself.

Matthew 7:1-2 (New International Version)

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.